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Okay, bad me, I didn't get any work on Swoop done this weekend, except buying supplies to finish the costume. (That's progress, I keep telling myself.) Got busy doing other things this weekend.

So my mom's fiance finally officially proposed to her. It's pretty funny -- they've been talking about getting married for a long time and saying stuff like "When we get married..." and "When he finally moves in..." but he hadn't actually asked her to marry him. He finally popped the question on Friday while they were shopping for a ring (which made the jeweler laugh hysterically), and they figure the actual wedding will happen in September or October.

How do I feel about this? I'm happy for my mom, of course. And I do like the guy -- he's a sweetheart. But is it bad of me to say that I'm dead scared, too?

I don't like change. I've stated that here before -- I like my world to stay somewhat predictable. And someone new entering the family is a BIG change. It'll mean sharing the house with someone new, someone whose quirks and personality I'm not totally familiar with yet. It'll mean some of the family rules get changed around a bit, and it'll mean adjustments on everyone's part. Especially since he has an adult son who'll be moving in and staying here for a couple of months until he gets his own life under control. And all of this changing and adjusting scares the crap out of me.

Something else that scares me -- and on a deep level -- is that every other guy my mom has been married to or dating has been very unaccepting of the fact that I'm different from most girls. My dad refused to accept for the longest time that I had Asperger's, and still maintains that if I act "normal," I'll be "normal." My stepdad didn't want to have anything to do with any of us kids, and he was pretty put off by the fact that I had Asperger's (despite the fact that he had it himself). And of the other two guys my mom dated and broke up with before, one of them wanted me put in a group home and the other treated me like a child.

So even though Mom's fiance has been kind so far, and has treated me like a fellow adult, I'm still scared that, when he finally moves in on a permanet basis, he's going to have a problem with me and my quirks. And I finally confessed that to my mom yesterday.

Mom's reply? She understood my fears, and she said she didn't know how she could fix them. But she assured me that he is willing to try to research and understand my Asperger's, and that he likes me despite (and in some ways because of) my quirks. If I was willing to put up with his own quirks, he would be willing to put up with mine.

I'm hoping all this works out -- it's a huge change, and it has me stressed and worried. But hopefully we can get everything worked out and settled without a great deal of drama and mess.

Just a warning -- fanfic updates, art updates, etc. will probably be delayed until after Fandemonium. What with getting the wedding planned and getting the house ready for another person to move in, I won't have very much spare time, and the Swoop costume takes precedence over other projects at the moment. Thanks for understanding.

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